This post is by Nabil Gulamani of www.successatreach.com.
A few years ago I was really against online dating. I thought that people that had online dating profiles needed to get a life.
However, as I started getting really busy with my sales job, I realized that I wasn’t really spending time on my dating life, and time was just flying. So I created an online dating profile and started connecting with many amazing women.
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1. Understand that women are long-term thinkers
Most men never get replies from women they have an interest in because they haven’t taken the time to establish a solid connection with them.
I have asked many women what turns them off about a man, and most of them tell me that most men jump right into asking for their phone numbers. All you men who are messaging women need to understand that women want to establish trust before they’ll feel like giving out their numbers.
So what steps should you take to establish connection with women?
2. Make sure you read a woman’s dating profile before messaging her
Most men will not pay attention to the details of a woman’s profile. Pay attention to what interests a woman and what she has a passion for. If you ask her more questions about her interests, she will be more interested in replying to your messages.
Consistency in communication is important when you’re establishing trust. Most men will give up if a woman doesn’t reply, or they will lose touch with her. Make an effort to stay in touch, and see what the results are.
3. Don’t talk about yourself too much
Many men think that if they start talking about their materialistic possessions, they will attract women instantly. This may be partially true, but the fact is that others can easily tell whether your confidence is authentic or fake.
Instead of running that risk, make a habit of getting to know more about the woman you are having a conversation with. Again, this is a great way to build trust as you get to know someone new.
4. Make sure you’re living a fulfilling lifestyle
When women read your online dating profile, they can easily tell whether you have an exciting life. You will get more replies from the women you reach out to if your profile shows that you are well-rounded and interesting.
Don’t write one-word or one-line descriptions—if you do, your dating profile will be ignored. Put in the effort to explain a little about who you really are, and you’ll be more likely to meet more interesting people.
5. Embrace the challenge
Online dating can be challenging, but if you’re persistent—and you can deal with a little rejection—it will become a fun and exciting experience.
It’s been a great adventure for me so far, because it has helped me move past a lot of my limiting beliefs about women and dating. I’ve also noticed that the more women I get to know, the more I have come to realize what kind of women I like.
What are you waiting for? Go out there and create your online dating profile so you can add some excitement to your dating life! And if you have your own tips to share, let us know in the comments.
Nabil Gulamani is in sales and assists SMBs with their Direct Marketing. During his free time he blogs about Self-Improvement to help people take their lifestyle to a whole new level. You can visit his Self-Improvement blog www.successatreach.com.
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At the very least, narrowing the field down to a shared commonality of interests should ensure that two people will have something to talk about when they are out on their first date! However, a dating site that encourages an array of philosophical and intellectual interests would accomplish even more! Intellectual communication is more than a sharing of common interests; it involves the sharing of values and viewpoints along a wide spectrum of subjects ranging widely from the arts to politics to spirituality and to the philosophy of life.
Yes I totally agree….A great website that has very intellectual users is OkCupid…the website has done a great job of creating a user friendly website that attracts a good group of people….They care a lot about wanting people to succeed at online dating:)
Cheers,
Nabil
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