Why I Love … My Heroes

This post is by Michele C. Hollow of Pet News and Views.

You might not know their names. However, once I tell you their stories, they will be your heroes too. They don’t wear capes or have secret identities. What they do have in common is a need to help others—both animals and people.

Their stories are inspirational; if I’m having a bad day, interviewing my heroes transforms my mood. That positive feeling is reinforced when I write about them.

My blog, Pet News and Views, focuses on the positive side of animal welfare. I spend my days with people and animals who make a difference. Judy Fridono and her surfing dog Ricochet (yes, you read that right) are two of my heroes.  Ricochet, a golden retriever, surfs for charity. Together they have raised $100,000 to help disabled children and adults. Watch this video and I guarantee you will feel good.

Eldad and Audrey Hagar of  Hope For Paws get the hero tag because of their rescue work. This husband and wife team, in California, have rescued thousands of abused dogs and cats from scary situations. I don’t know how they do it. Talking to them lifts my spirits. And there are others who are in the trenches doing amazing rescue work.

Then there are the trainers who work with rescue dogs, therapy dogs for children with epilepsy, and military service dogs. When I heard about the dog who could detect seizures a few minutes before they occur and how a child has cut back on her medication thanks to this dog’s actions, I got teary-eyed.

The people who work with and on behalf of animals are my heroes. The animals are heroic too. I know the power animals have on us. When I’m feeling sad, my cat is right at my side. Heck, he sits on the desk while I write.  I’ve been known to type with one hand, while the other pets Earl Gray, my cat.

A call to action

I have developed a deep bond with many of my readers. I request that they send e-mails to congress to stop the wild horse round up, sign a pledge stating they will not shop at stores that sell puppies (these stories support puppy mills), or leave a comment on my site so a pet food company will donate food to an animal shelter. I truly love my readers because they come through each and every time.

Some people don’t understand

Animal welfare people are often asked, “Why help animals when there are so many people suffering?” Did you know that most people who help animals also help people? It’s true. And when we help animals, we actually help ourselves. The love we get back from animals is immeasurable.

Being true to my beliefs

Recently a major clothing company approached me about purchasing a banner ad on my site. They were talking about a good deal of money. I was elated. Then I found out that this company came out with a perfume, and my ethical side kicked in. I sent an e-mail asking if they test on animals. They said they did, and I had to turn down the ad. Darn, I could have used that money.

I am following my bliss by writing about my heroes—both two- and four-legged—and the rewards are slowly coming to fruition. I can’t rely on my blog for my full income yet. However, other opportunities like speaking gigs are arising.

My agenda

I want everyone who reads Pet News and Views to spay and neuter their pets. I want people to adopt from local shelters and rescue groups. I want people to promise never to wear fur. I want people to be kind to animals, and in turn, to be kind to one another.

My husband sometimes calls me a dreamer. I just interviewed a hero of mine who is working to get people throughout the world to spay/neuter their pets. He is getting endorsements from celebrities and has just launched a nonprofit for students to get involved. His organization is called 600 Million. There are 600 million stray dogs in the world living in deplorable conditions. Without spaying/neutering these dogs, these 600 million dogs can give birth to between one and three billion puppies each year.

During my interview with this hero, I was told that there are scientists researching oral contraceptives that would sterilize these dogs. This person was so positive that a solution would be found.

The skeptic in me kicked in. However, he and others like him who are working tirelessly to make this a better world continue to make me believe. They are the dreamers, and I’m so proud of them.

Michele C. Hollow writes the blog Pet News and Views (http://petnewsandviews.com). Her blog has been nominated for Best Pet Award. You can follow and link with her at: Facebook: Michele C. Hollow, Facebook: Pet News and Views, Twitter: @michelechollow, @PetNewsAndViews. LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/michelechollow.

How to Harmonize Your Work/Life Balance

This post is by Jesse Langley.

Maintaining a healthy balance between your work and personal life can be difficult. Modern office workers can have an especially tough time with this because work can often occupy a sort of no man’s land between the two.

When you begin taking work home with you, the line between recreation and work begins to blur. Taking occasional breaks from the laptop and the television can actually improve your work performance and help keep you sane.

Unplug more often

It’s easy to lose track of how much time you’re spending online. We typically spend a large chunk of our day in front of the computer only to get home and fire up the laptop again.

The next thing you know, the evening has flown by and you’ve spent most of your day at a computer. Facebook newsfeeds, CNN, and BBC apps giving you updates on your iPad while you’re working on your laptop can easily take over your free time.

Setting aside some technology-free time can help you detox from the constant barrage of email and social media status updates.

When we’re not careful, heavy social media use could be impacting us in other ways as well. The tendency to tweet and post Facebook status updates constantly often causes us to be less than perfectly thoughtful about how and what we’re communicating.

Researchers suspect that heavy texting can change the way that some high school students process and deliver information when engaging in writing assignments. Communicating only through brief tweets and status updates may result in more difficulty expressing complex thoughts and ideas when writing.

What to do with your new-found free time

As I began to take more work home, my personal recreational activities started to suffer. I had previously been a heavy reader and always ran at least three times a week. But as I spent more time with my laptop and iPad, I read and ran with less regularity until finally I was doing neither.

But more time spent working doesn’t always equal better work efficiency. Stepping away from your desk and going out for a brisk run does more than simply burn calories and keep you in shape. Exercise elevates endorphins in the brain and enhances a sense of well-being and positive outlook on life. This can translate into better work performance and task execution.

Reading works in several ways to benefit your work life as well. In addition to being a great way to discover new ideas and perspectives, reading also doesn’t turn the reader into a passive recipient of information like watching television tends to do. Reading a good book is often the exact opposite of our multi-tasking methods of modern work. Being able to focus on one thing completely is relaxing and rejuvenating. Reading frequently helps me get back to developing thoughts more thoroughly and working with fewer distractions when I get back to work.

Schedule your reading and exercise breaks

If you don’t make a point of scheduling time for your exercise and reading you’re likely to procrastinate or end up skipping it entirely. Be sure to start slow and ratchet things up as you get into a good routine. Exercise at least three times a week if you can manage it. Find a form of exercise that you enjoy and you’ll be more likely to stick with it.

The same goes for reading. It doesn’t matter as much what you read, just that you’re reading. It doesn’t have to be highbrow literature to be beneficial. Try to find an hour a day to read. Once you’ve incorporated an exercise and reading routine into your daily activities you’ll likely feel that your life is a little better balanced.

Jesse Langley lives near Chicago. He divides his time among work, writing and family life. He has a keen interest in blogging and social media and is an advocate for online training he also writes for www.professionalintern.com.

Why I Love … Chocolate

This post is by Jules Clancy of Stonesoup.

Growing up I was more a vanilla or caramel fan. Chocolate didn’t really do much for me, especially when it came to ice cream flavours.

Over the years I did learn to enjoy the odd square here and there. But in general I was more the type of person who gets excited about the cheese course, rather than planning my meal around something gooey and chocolatey.

Then I landed a job designing chocolate biscuits for Australia’s largest biscuit company.

My friends were very jealous. The words “dream job” were bandied about quite a bit.

I wasn’t that excited.

I knew it was going to be kind of fun. But I didn’t realise just how much it was going to change my relationship with chocolate.

You know the old saying that if you’re not excited about something, just dig deeper and learn more about it and soon you’ll be loving it?

Chocolate cake

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Well that was what happened with me and chocolate.

So if you’re struggling to find something to love about chocolate, here are some tips to expand your knowledge and foster a little (more) chocolate love.

Chocolate isn’t naturally sweet

The first time I visited the place where the company I was working for made their own chocolate, was blown away by the massive blocks, about half my height, of what looked like chocolate. And then someone suggested I taste a little bit.

Extremely bitter and almost nothing like the chocolate that you and I know and love, I couldn’t believe I’d been tricked. What I was actually tasting was cocoa mass which is produced from fermented and crushed up cocoa beans. Chocolate manufacturers add sugar (and for milk chocolate some milk powder) to the cocoa mass to make chocolate.

If you ever come across a 99% cocoa chocolate, give it a try. You probably won’t like it that much but it will give you an idea of what chocolate tastes like without the sugar.

Chocolate, like wine, tastes different depending on where it was grown

I used to think that chocolate was chocolate. But after being lucky enough to try different chocolates from around the world, I’ve learned that chocolate made from beans grown in Ecuador will taste completely different to a chocolate made with beans from Ghana.

Good quality chocolate producers are beginning to label their chocolate with the origin of the beans. So you to can explore the different chocolates from around the world.

Chocolate is a delicate flower

When cocoa butter or chocolate cools and solidifies, there are a number of different crystal structures that the fat particles can form. Unfortunately for chocolate manufacturers only one of these types of crystal is stable and give the lovely shine and “snap” characteristic of good quality chocolate. If you’re making chocolates it’s important to use a process called “tempering” to make sure the chocolate forms the right type of crystals.

If you’ve ever come across chocolate that looked like it had a white-ish dust or mold growth on the outside, this is called chocolate “bloom.” It’s a sign that either it wasn’t tempered correctly in the beginning, has been exposed to high temperatures at some stage, or is getting old. Don’t be alarmed, it’s just cocoa butter in the wrong crystal structure. It won’t hurt you to eat it.

Cocoa powder is just cocoa beans with most of the fat removed

Before I actually worked with chocolate, I’d always considered anything made with cocoa powder to be inferior to products made with real chocolate. But the thing is, all the flavour is in the cocoa powder part and the cocoa butter (or fat) is pretty bland. The cocoa butter provides that lovely melt in the mouth texture and that’s about it.

So if you have a cake or a brownie where the texture is coming from the butter and flour and sugar, adding a good quality cocoa powder to get your chocolate flavour isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s just a matter of getting a good quality cocoa.

Chocolate contains antioxidants

Chocolate contains antioxidants such as phenolics and flavanoids which can be beneficial to our health. One study has shown that cocoa has a higher antioxidant capacity than green tea and red wine. Different chocolates and cocoas contain different levels of antioxidants, however, so best to choose higher quality chocolates and natural cocoa powders which haven’t been ‘alkalised’ (treated with alkali to change the colour).

Not all chocolate is created equal

Different chocolates are made with different amounts of cocoa solids. Generally, cocoa is the most expensive ingredient, so some manufacturers will try and bulk out the chocolate with more sugar (and for milk chocolates more milk powder).

The best way to tell the quality level of a chocolate is to look at the % cocoa solids claimed on the packaging. Generally the higher the number the better the quality.

Although, once you go above 70% cocoa solids, there is less sugar to balance the bitterness of the cocoa so you may find it too intense. It’s a matter of personal preference. I know people who swear by 99% cocoa chocolate which is pretty much sugar free. Personally I like something a bit less austere and tend to enjoy my chocolate in the 65-70% cocoa solids range.

Why not buy a few different chocolates and have your own tasting to figure out what works best for you and your guests?

Little flourless chocolate cakes

Serves 2

It’s a great cake to have in your repertoire because it will work for gluten intolerant people. If you needed to make it dairy free, you could easily replace the butter with vegetable oil. In terms of sugar, I’ve used both white and brown, and either is fine.

These are among those cakes that rise to lofty heights during baking then sink miserably as they cool. The first time I made them I was a little depressed how they looked, but I just turned them upside down and the looked rather lovely. Of course once you taste them, any negative thoughts will be banished all together. When I made them the other day for the photographs, I decided to make the most of the sink hole and fill it with double cream – so good.

If you don’t have a food processor, just melt the chocolate and butter in your preferred way and stir through the sugar and egg yolk and then proceed to step 4.

50g (1 3/4oz) dark chocolate (preferably 70% cocoa solids)
40g (1 1/2oz) brown sugar
40g (1 1/2oz) butter
1 egg, separated
cream or ice cream, to serve

  1. Place a baking sheet or tray on the middle shelf of your oven. Preheat to 180C (350F). Grease and line the bases of 2 x 1 cup capacity ramekins.
  2. Whizz chocolate and sugar in a food processor until you have coarse crumbs.
  3. Add butter, egg yolk and 2 tablespoons boiling water and whizz for another few seconds, until well combined.
  4. Whisk egg white with a pinch of salt in a clean, dry bowl.
  5. Gently fold chocolate mixture into the white foam until only just combined.
  6. Divide mixture gently between the prepared ramekins. Bake for 15 – 20 minutes or until the tops feel firm when touched with your finger.
  7. Allow to cool then serve with cream or ice cream.

Jules Clancy loves food and wine so much she has science degrees in both. She is the author of the eCookbook 5 Ingredients | 10 Minutes and blogs about delicious, healthy meals that can be made in minutes over at Stonesoup.

How to Make Time for What Really Matters to You

This post is by Ali Luke of AliVentures.

Do you ever wish you had just a bit more time for yourself?

Perhaps you’ve got a project you’d love to finish. It could be anything— writing your novel, creating a website, designing a Flash game, making a rug—so long as it’s important to you.

The problem is, whenever life gets busy, your project gets shunted aside—and at the rate you’re going, it looks like you’re never going to finish.

Or maybe you have a particular hobby or interest: surfing, golf, knitting, video games, fencing, cooking … something that you really enjoy. You just never seem to have time for it.

What can you do?

Realize that it’s important

Your big project or much-loved hobby might seem unimportant. After all, you’ve got work, chores, family, friends, commitments…

Plus, the folks around you might not get what it is you want to do. I’m a writer, and trust me, I know that sitting down to write several thousand words a day is not most people’s idea of a good time!

However frivolous, geeky, weird, or dull your project or hobby might seem to other people, it still matters to you.

It’s important.

You have the right to do what you love for at least a few hours each week.

And you’ll find that when you do make time for what really, truly matters to you, you’ll be a happier person. If you get just a couple of hours at the weekend to relax with your knitting or to focus on your new website, you’ll have more energy for the rest of your life.

So, how exactly do you go about finding the time?

Join a course or group

When you belong to a course or group that meets regularly, you’re almost certainly going to find the time. A fixed appointment in your diary is much easier to keep than a vague commitment to “play golf sometime this month.”

A course with teaching, assignments and deadlines can be a great way to take things to the next level—plus it helps show your family and friends that you’re serious.

A group of like-minded people, whether locally or online, can be incredibly encouraging. Simply being around others who value writing/cooking/games etc. is motivating – and members of the group may well help keep you accountable.

Find your best time of day

Some projects require a lot of concentration and energy: anything creative, for instance (like writing, designing, composing) or anything that’s quite academic (like studying for a new qualification).

If you’re working on a project like that, it’s crucial to find a time of day when you’re naturally focused and energized. For me, it’s mornings: I try to do the bulk of my writing between 8am and 11am. For you, it could be early evening, or late at night when the rest of the household are asleep.

Even with an “easy” hobby, you’ll want to find a time of day that works well. You might need space to spread out your art materials on the kitchen table (not ideal if your partner is trying to cook) or you might need quiet (not ideal if your kids are running around screaming).

Deliberately set aside time

Don’t wait for free time to suddenly appear: it won’t. Your life is already full—even if some of the things filling it are “watching TV” and “surfing the net”. You might need to cut something out in order to make more time for what you really want to do.

One of the easiest—and most powerful—ways to find time is to deliberately set it aside. This is easiest when you look a week or two ahead in your diary: you’ve probably got a free evening next week or a few hours at the weekend that you could spend on your project or hobby.

If you don’t set the time aside, you’re just going to fill up your life with all the usual things. So grab your diary now, and look for just two hours this week that you could spend on you.

It’s not selfish, and it’s definitely not pointless.

And you never know what two hours this week could lead to…

Ali Luke used to commit a couple of hours a week to her writing—and now she makes her living as a writer and writing coach. If you’d like to finally get your blog going or write that novel you’ve been daydreaming about, check out her free mini-ebook How to Find Time for Your Writing.

Ten Ways to Get to Know Your Family Better

This post is by Eric Speir of www.ericspeir.com.

Have you ever noticed that the older you get the more time seems to fly? In fact, when you add children into the mix our time seems to spiral out of control. We are staying busier as families but one of the downsides to this is that we often lose quality time with our children. I’m reminded of a time of when I was in college when this thought was driven home into my life.

family

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While in college I was required to take a class on marriage and family. To be honest, I can’t remember a word the professor said that semester except for one simple statement. He warned all of us, “If you don’t love on your children, then someone else will.” I’ve never forgotten that statement. It has stuck with me ever since.

As parents we need all the help that we can get. It’s easy to beat ourselves over the head because we cannot do more for our children. You cannot give your children everything so why not use what you have and quit living in regret? Living in regret does not accomplish much except for make us miserable and make us feel like failures as parents.

One of the best ways to be a good parent is by simply being there for your children. We have somehow bought into the idea that our children demand more “things” from us, but what they really need from us is our time! Someone once said, “Children spell love as t-i-m-e.

There is not much that we can do to change the pace of our lives, but what if we could use the time that we have more wisely? What are some practical things that we could do to make the best of our time with our children?

Here are some practical ideas to get you started:

1. Be home when you’re at home

When you are home with your family intentionally spend time with them and avoid multi-tasking with family and work.

2. Put your iphone or Blackberry on silent or leave it in your home office

As adults I think that we are too connected to our offices. My wife reminds me that a ringing phone is only an invitation! We don’t have to answer it every time that it rings.

3. Cut off the television and play a game with your children

The television has become the family babysitter of choice. The television is cheap and is always available.

4. Force yourself to keep eye contact with your spouse or children

When someone in your family is talking to you put down the newspaper, laptop or ipad and focus on what they are saying.

5. Have a family night every week

My family and I try to take every Thursday night as a family night. We eat dinner together as a family and we participate in an activity together. It could mean watching a DVD movie, playing a game, riding bikes together or anything that your family enjoys doing. If you can’t do it every week then start having one a month. Just start somewhere!

6. Take your children on “dates”

I have two girls at home and I try to take them on “Daddy Dates.” I might take one for breakfast and the other to get an ice cream cone. They don’t seem to care what we do as long as we are together. On these dates I get to spend some one-on-one time with them and I get to focus my attention on them. The good thing about these dates is that I get to teach my children what a “good” date looks like before they start dating. I don’t leave dating for chance!

7. Write them personal notes

Handwrite a little note and tell your spouse or child how much you love and appreciate them. Everyone likes to be encouraged and told how special they are. (This is free too!)

8. Buy them a small gift

You would be surprised what you can get for a dollar at the dollar store. Children enjoy small gifts and it really is the thought that counts!

9. Go dark on the weekends

Try going a whole weekend without getting on your laptop or checking your email. You will be surprised as to how much time you have.

10. Start making new family traditions

Try “Pancake Saturday”, “Movie Friday”, “Sunday Brunch”, or anything else that you would like to start. The reason that you remember family traditions is because they made good memories for you.

Remember, you don’t always have to spend money to make a memory! Many of the ideas on this list cost little to no money at all. Again, the whole point is that you find creative ways to spend quality time with your family.

What other ideas can you add to this list?

Eric Speir is a pastor, life coach, educator and blogger. He is passionate about leadership, coaching and writing. He likes to use biblical principles, coaching, practical wisdom and encouragement to help others to thrive in every area of their life. You can read more of his posts at www.ericspeir.com.

The Bright Side of Coping with Depression

This guest post is by Dan Lippmann of the Mood Switch Method.

If you could take a pill that would prevent you from ever feeling sad or depressed, would you take it?

A July 2011 Prevention Magazine article entitled, “The Surprising Silver Lining of Sadness” reports that antidepressants are the most commonly prescribed drug in America for adults under the age of 60, and that about 10% of the population is taking them at any given moment.

The bright side

image used with permission

While medication can be helpful for those with severe depression, clearly many people with milder forms of depression don’t want to experience sadness and loss, either. They just want these painful feelings to go away.

Since I spend my days teaching people how to switch their negative moods to more positive ones, people sometimes assume that my goal is for people to be happy all the time. Nothing could be further from the truth!

I’m certainly not happy all the time, nor would I want to be. Sometimes sad or down feelings are normal and even necessary. If a dear friend moves away, then it’s entirely healthy to feel sad. Or if you don’t get a job you really want, then it’s natural to feel down.

As painful as these feelings are, there are good reasons not to numb them with drugs. According to the Prevention Magazine article, coping with depression without drugs can make you emotionally healthier, improve your brain functioning, and increase your resilience.

My client Mary is a good example of how dealing with depression can have a positive outcome. After she was fired from her sales job, she became very depressed, barely leaving her house and withdrawing from friends and family.

She was so depressed that she went on medication for awhile. But the medication numbed all her emotions – the sad ones and the happy ones. She eventually decided to go off the medication, saying she’d rather feel “normal than numb.”

Depression stops you in your tracks, shuts you down, and leads you to withdraw from your regular life. While withdrawal is often perceived as a negative, there is a benefit. It gives you the time and space to focus on what’s troubling you.

During this time, Mary thought endlessly about her career. She criticized her performance, wondered what she could have done differently, and worried about ever finding another job. Although such rumination is often viewed as unhealthy and unhelpful, studies show that it often stimulates analytic reasoning and contributes to problem solving and new insights.

In Mary’s case, hours of rumination produced an amazing insight: She’d spent 20 years of her life selling products she didn’t care anything about.

Mary’s new awareness motivated her to look for more meaningful work. She eventually found a job selling equipment for children with special needs. Since Mary’s daughter had special needs, she now experienced her work as important and worthwhile.

She also acknowledged that she felt stronger for having faced her depression head on. As painful and scary as her experience was, she had learned skills for dealing with negative thoughts and handling life’s challenges.

Sometimes sadness and depression are necessary for growth. Sometimes they can change your life dramatically for the better.

Please share your experiences about dealing with depression without drugs. What insights did you gain?

Dan Lippmann, LCSW, is the director of Counseling and Wellness Innovations, with two offices near Chicago, Illinois. He is also the creator of the Mood Switch Method, an easy to learn technique that breaks the painful cycle of negative emotions such as anxiety, down moods and anger. You can download his free eBook, Beyond EFT: 7 Steps to Banish Stress, Worry, Fear and Anxiety, and sign up for blog at www.danlippmann.com.

10 Ways to Entertain Your Kids in Your Own Backyard

This guest post is by Janette Dolores of www.janettedolores.com.

The lazy days of summer aren’t lazy at all when you have young children at home. A heart-warming time of life, your young child may view you not only as his caregiver and source of goldfish-shaped cheese snacks, but as his agenda planner and playmate.

Most parents often travel to parks, playgrounds or pools during the summer, but let’s face it: sometimes you just want to hang out at home for the day. For those days, I entertain my little ones with creative and inexpensive activities in the yard.

Photo Attribution: Clare Bloomfield

Photo Attribution: Clare Bloomfield

Here are some warm weather ideas you may want to try at home with your little one(s):
  1. A limbo contest. A mop handle works well for this activity. Play some fun limbo music—my kids like “Wipe Out” by the Beach Boys—and place the handle at age-appropriate heights. Ducking with the chin down to get under the bar is perfectly acceptable for younger contestants!  Run a search for “limbo music” on YouTube for further musical selections.
  2. A yard egg hunt. Egg hunts are not just for Easter. Take plastic toy eggs, fill them with finger snacks, candy or coins for the piggy bank, and hide the eggs around the yard. Give the kids colorful wicker baskets with which to collect the eggs. You can hide the eggs several times in different locations and sit back as your children relish in finding each new hiding spot.
  3. A yard picnic. Throw an outdoor blanket on the ground–preferably under a shady tree—and have lunch or an early dinner outdoors with finger food and juice boxes. It’s a perfect opportunity to bond as a family, chitchat and discuss the sights and sounds just outside your door.
  4. A yard luau. Enjoy lunch or an early dinner outdoors with a luau theme that will be sure to keep your kids giggling and engaged. A luau can be as inexpensive as you want, depending on how intricate you make it. I go to our local party supply store and buy leis and floral headbands for under a dollar each, child mini hula skirts for around five dollars each and hibiscus-themed tableware for about $20. The musical entertainment comes free, courtesy of searching “luau music” or “Hawaiian music” on YouTube. Again, a Beach Boys tune—“Kokomo”—is a luau favorite in my household. Or, you can buy a luau music CD at your local party store.
  5. Gardening. Kids do not see gardening as a chore at all. You can find sturdy kiddie gardening sets for under $15. Plant flowers for instant beauty or vegetables and herbs for a fall harvest, all with thrilled children in tow.
  6. A portable sprinkler to run through. My kids enjoy the kiddie pool, but beam when I set up the portable sprinkler for them to run through. To make a game out of oscillating sprinklers, place several toys close to the sprinkler base and have each child take a turn collecting the toys before the sprinkler nozzles swing back in that child’s direction.
  7. Exploring nature. With a compass, pair of child binoculars and a kiddie magnifying glass in hand, you can chart a course into the “wilderness” of your yard to study birds in flight or analyze leaf patterns and bugs. Have a basket handy to store your children’s finds. If your child is old enough, you may want to take along a dirt sifter to collect rocks of different shapes and colors.
  8. Yard camping. Set up a play tent and pretend you’ve gone camping. We like to play tea time in ours. For added effect, I make S’mores indoors in the microwave for the kids to munch on outdoors in the tent. You can find outdoor play tents for under $30.
  9. Watercolors. Large coloring books work best for outdoor watercolor painting. With pages measuring up to a foot and a half long, large coloring books give your little one plenty of room to paint with the thicker brushes young children use while developing their fine motor skills. Don’t forget the smocks and plastic cups filled with water to clean brushes during color changes!
  10. Oldies but goodies. Some oldie but goodie outdoor fun may be familiar games to us parents, but completely new to our children depending on their ages. Games like hide-and-seek, I spy, hopscotch and tag are always a hit, with the added bonus of being free.

What warm weather activities do you enjoy in the outdoors of your home with your young children?

Janette Dolores is an at-home mom, wife and blogger. She is passionate about family, spirituality and writing, and draws inspiration for her writing from everyday experiences. Read more of her posts at www.janettedolores.com.

Have You Arrived in Life?

This post is by S. Srinivasan: philosopher, writer and thinker.

The search is on—search for eternal happiness, search for that elusive love, and search for something you don’t even know about.

Sometimes I feel that this search will never end and I will never arrive in life. Fortunately, these moments are few and far between—I am busy with my life otherwise. But we have to ask and question ourselves as to the real purpose of life. Is it simply living an uninteresting, vegetable-like life? Or is there a bigger, grander purpose?

I don’t believe that we are born to sell discount coupons, live our lives, and be snuffed out at some point. The conclusion I have reached is that we must live to achieve a higher purpose. The goal is to find the right balance.

Spirituality does not mean a hermit’s life

I often see people struggle to make a choice—as if it is either a life of a puritan or one of debauchery. It is either an orgy of sex or total abstinence. This is where we tend to get confused.

Why not think of life as a balancing act? You can be in the thick of things as well as remain aloof and untouched. Life will be fulfilled only if there is place for everything—love, sex, friendship, spirituality, and physical pleasures. We must not feel ashamed to enjoy life, nor should we wallow in self-pity. This is what I call a spiritual experience. There is actually no one choice you must make. You must take it as it comes, with joy and contentment and with gratitude. A hermit’s life is no better than a wasted one—it neither fulfills one’s own desires nor does it help anyone else attain happiness.

The journey is itself the destination

Discovering small  bits of happiness—catching the sparkle of morning sun on glittering waters of a  distant lake, watching the tender petals of a blooming rose—these are the fleeting moments of life which I hold in my heart. These moments occur while I sell my discount coupons. That sounds pedestrian, but it is true. I don’t want to look for these treasures in isolation. Rather, they take on a new meaning when they happen within the mundane stretch of life. We have to live, after all.

Why wait for that far destination when the journey itself is the purpose? Why rush through life just to get there? The “there” which we think about is only a mirage—it disappears once we get “there.” The search is endless. Now is the only truth—the only reality.  

When you understand this simple truth, you have actually arrived. This is your destination. Enjoy it. Live it up. Say your prayers if you think you need to, else keep your silence. Living the moment is the ultimate joy. The past is gone and the future lies beyond. The only truth is now. Let it happen.

S. Srinivasan is a philosopher, writer and thinker who likes to dwell on the other side of moon. He also writes about diets and weight loss programs that offer Savings code for Medifast diet and coupon deals for Nutrisystem.

6 Reasons Why You’ll Never Succeed

This guest post is by Tom Ewer of Leaving Work Behind.

It has probably crossed your mind on more than one occasion that it is much easier to spend money than to make it. Success and failure share the same relationship. It’s just so damn easy to fail. That is why “success” is coveted by many, but achieved by few.

You define your own success—it is an entirely subjective concept. If your idea of success is to start reading one blog post a day, then you’re probably feeling pretty good about yourself right now. However, for the purposes of this list, we will consider success to be achieving what I call your Endgame.

So, without further ado, this is what is holding you back.

1. You don’t try

This is the cold-blooded killer of success. If you’re applying yourself in entirely the wrong fashion, at least you are applying yourself in some way. If you simply don’t try, then you will never succeed.

A lot of people defeat themselves before they have even begun. There is a prevailing mindset amongst the majority that success is ultimately unachievable, as if those who are successful just got lucky. Fortunately for us, luck isn’t that prevalent—but neither is hard work or persistence—and that is why many people never get to where they want to be.

2. You’re not productive

You might think that you are, but you may be fooling yourself. Merriam-Webster defines productivity as being “effective in bringing about”. In the context of this article, productivity equals being effective in bringing about success. When you consider your actions, are they all truly geared towards your success? If not, then your productivity is not what it could be. Every time you start a task, you need to ask yourself if it is taking you one step closer to success.

3. You don’t know what you want

You may be able to tell me that you want a million dollars in your bank account, but you would be fooling yourself. You ultimately want to be successful (by your own definition) because you think it will make you happier. Money can facilitate happiness, but it does not in itself create happiness. You should be thinking about what makes you happy, not what you think makes you happy.

In order to generate long-lasting motivation, you need to truly know why you are trying so damned hard. And take it from me; it is not because you want a million dollars sitting in your bank account.

4. You give up too easily

There is one screamingly obvious reason why not all people achieve their desired level of success: a lack of patience. This has become even more prevalent in the internet age—if instant success doesn’t land in your lap then it clearly will never come.

Successfully negotiating the path to success requires an enormous amount of patience. In order to have sufficient reserves of this highly valuable quality, you need to know where you are going. Which leads us to…

5. You don’t know where you are going

You might have a clear definition of your planned success, but do you have any idea how to get there? Again, simply saying “I want a million dollars in my bank account and I am going to get there by being an awesome internet marketer” is not the true answer to the question.

Can you provide me with a step by step plan as to how you intend to achieve success? If not, then you do not know how to get there, and you will likely fail. You need a plan.

6. You work hard … and fail

Rarely is success so easily avoided than by endeavor being spread far and wide. Success requires a concentrated effort. If your efforts are diluted across various projects, or various obligations, your chances of success are greatly diminished. You can work yourself into the ground and achieve very little.

Before you consider anything else, you need to have a better understanding of what commitment you are prepared to invest in your success. It may not be easy at first to comprehend how much you will need to commit in order to reach your goal, but it will become clear in time. One thing is certain, if you commit 100% of what is required, but that 100% is divided over numerous projects, you are still likely to fail.

What else blocks the path to success?

Now it’s over to you. What do you think? I have given you six stumbling blocks that lie on the path to success. What others have you experienced?

Tom Ewer is the owner of Leaving Work Behind, a growing community of likeminded people with a unifying goal – to create scalable and sustainable online incomes. He aims to leave his career in property development just as soon as his online pursuits can support him. If you enjoyed this article, then be sure to sign up to Tom’s RSS feed.

One Simple Factor to Reduce Stress and Increase Productivity

This post is by Kirsten Simmons of  Personalized Productivity.

Let’s think through your day.  When you arrive at your desk, what’s the first thing you see?

Is it the pile of paper comprising three weeks worth of files that you’ve put off sorting into their alphabetical hanging files?

Is it the 100+ emails that would only take a moment or two to reply to, but that you haven’t had the motivation to dive into?

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Is it the blank sheet of paper where you were supposed to write today’s to-do list before you wrapped up yesterday, but you were so relieved to just get to the end of the day that you forgot all about it?

What do you feel when you see that pile of files, that overflowing inbox or that blank sheet of paper?  If you’re like most people the response is guilt, frustration, or even a muted resignation.  Because despite your best intentions, you’ve failed yet again to maintain even the most basic organization or productivity system.  You’re just an utter failure.

Hold it right there!  Think for a minute and tell me, where did you get those systems from?  Did you make them up, or was it from a book or article trumpeting the ease of this or that system for skyrocketing your productivity and getting your life back on track?  How could that person—who’s writing that book without ever even meeting you—how could they possibly know that this system will be right for you?

They couldn’t.  And not only do they have a minimal chance of selecting the correct system for you, there’s a very high probability that their personality is such that their system will never work for you.

Let’s think through your day again.  What if you arrived at your desk and found nothing there that shouldn’t have been there?  What if your e-mail inbox had just a few messages that had come in overnight?  What if you sat down knowing exactly what you were going to do and how you were going to do it?

Would you feel better?  Would your stress be lower?  Would your productivity increase?

When it comes to productivity and organization, there are four important personality types.  Each type has distinct preferences for organizing their physical space, managing their time and optimizing their productivity.  And yet over 99% of productivity books and products are written by one type—the one that naturally gravitates toward “traditional” organization strategies like alphabetical filing and schedules planned to the quarter hour block.

Discovering your productivity personality and creating a system that works with your brain frees you from the stress and frustration of trying to maintain your old system.  Your new one will come naturally, will scale to your work load and adapt as you move into new projects.

Let me tell you a bit about the types and give you some tips to get you started right now. There is no reason to ever feel like a failure when it comes to productivity again.

The Fantastical

If you’re a Fantastical, you’re a creative problem solver who thrives on variety and originality.  You’ve been known to become so engrossed in your projects that you forget appointments, meetings or even meals!  The biggest key in a Fantastical organization system is space—you have to see all the components of a project in front of you, so structure your office space accordingly.  Shelves above your desk are a great way to do that, but don’t fall into the trap of using them for binders!  Put your project piles there instead so you can see everything you need to.

The Environmental

If you’re an Environmental, you’re the person that everyone around you depends on.  Your warmth and caring shines through in everything you do, and you worry when anyone is feeling sick or uncomfortable.  As such, you’re constantly shifting your schedule and your priorities to help out someone in need, and it drives those around you crazy!  Instead of trying to conform to someone else’s quarter hour schedules, plan out your day in blocks of at least two hours.  That gives you time to work on what needs doing while still stopping to lend a hand if someone needs you.

The Analytical

If you’re an Analytical, you’re motivated and goal oriented.  You rely on facts and figures rather than emotion, and you’re great at seeing the big picture.  Your most effective productivity strategy is learning how to focus your time on high value tasks while delegating the rest to assistants or others on your team.  Your goals will be achieved when everyone around you plays to their strengths, so make sure you know what those strengths are and do your best to see that the work gets divided accordingly.

The Structural

If you’re a Structural, then congratulations, organization comes naturally to you!  You’re the one everyone turns to when something needs to be planned, and when brainstorming your first action is to start making a list.  You’re most comfortable in a routine, and you can become overwhelmed by interruptions or unexpected increases in workload.  The good news is that there are a LOT of systems out there for you to choose from, so take a look at what you’re doing now and ask how it could possibly break.  Then do some experimenting and find ways to streamline your systems and routines to handle unexpected situations.

Once you’ve identified your productivity personality and altered your systems to fit, you’ll find that your day flows easier, your stress is reduced and all the time you spent struggling to maintain someone else’s system is suddenly free for whatever you’d like.

Kirsten started researching personality and productivity out of curiosity one day last October, and before she knew it she had a business on her hands! Are you interested in learning more about your type?  Come visit Personalized Productivity to take our free quiz to determine your primary type and get customized advice to begin building your system.